The Welcome of Co-Dependents Anonymous
CoDA UK Literature Service is Back!
The new CoDA UK literature website is now online. See details here
CoDA UK Communications – Stay in Touch!
If you are a UK CoDA Meeting GSR and you are not yet on the mailing list for communications from the CoDA UK NSC, or if your meeting does not have a GSR currently but you would like to nominate a meeting contact email then please email us on coda dot uk dot nsc at gmail dot com. Individual members are also welcome to joint the emailing list.
CoDA Mixed Retreat at NODDFA North Wales Friday 18th January to Sunday 20th January 2019.
Joint NSC and LSER Commitee meeting and 12 Step CoDA Meeting Saturday 2nd February at the Waterloo Action Centre. Regular CoDA meeting in the morning and Committee business
meeting in the afternoon.
The next London Sponsorship Workshop is 1 – 4pm, Saturday TBA 2019 at Waterloo Action Centre, download flyer here.
We will update this page and the flyer once 2019 dates are booked.
Salisbury Retreats 2019: Just dates for your diary for now. We are hoping to hold 2 Mixed Retreats at Sarum College in Salisbury in 2019. The dates are Friday 29 March – Sunday 31 March 2019 and Friday 20 September to Snday 22 September 2019. Further Information will be posted here as soon as we are ready to take bookings.
About CoDA UK – information for newcomers
Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) is a set of informal self-help groups made up of men and women with a common interest in working through the problems that co-dependency has caused in their lives. CoDA is based on AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and uses an adapted version of their Twelve Steps and Traditions as a central part of its suggested
programme of recovery.
To attend CoDA meetings, all you need is the willingness to work at having healthy relationships. This means that all kinds of people attend meetings. Individual members can and do have differing political, religious and other affiliations, but since these are not relevant to the business of recovery from co-dependency, no comment is made about them.
All meetings begin with an introduction which usually includes the Twelve Steps and Traditions, a welcome to newcomers, and an explanation of the format the meeting will take. There may be a speaker, or a reading of a Step or a topic. The meeting is then open for people to share their experiences, feelings and recovery with the group. There is no obligation to share if you do not wish to, whether you are a newcomer or a long-established member. Each meeting usually incorporates a collection to cover the expenses of the group (eg hire of the meeting room) but CoDA is non-profit making. The meeting will end with a special prayer, called the Serenity Prayer. After the meeting, newcomers who would like more information can use this time to have their questions answered by more established members.
If you are new to CoDA, please read through all the information on this website, especially the page ‘Am I Codpendent’, and contact CoDA by email if you wish. The best way to get started is to choose a meeting from the list here, and simply go along. It is suggested, if you are new, that you go to at least six meetings to find out if CoDA is right for you. You do not need to ‘join’ formally – if you decide CoDA is for you, simply attending meetings makes you a member.
CoDA UK is, as the name suggests, the UK arm of a worldwide fellowship. Links to other countries’ organisations can be found on our links page.
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We welcome you to Co-Dependents Anonymous, a program of recovery from codependence, where each of us may share our experience, strength, and hope in our efforts to find freedom where there has been bondage and peace where there has been turmoil in our relationships with
others and ourselves.
Most of us have been searching for ways to overcome the dilemmas of the conflicts in our relationships and our childhoods. Many of us were raised in families where addictions existed – some of us were not. In either case, we have found in each of our lives that codependence is a most deeply rooted compulsive behaviour and that it is born out of our sometimes moderately, sometimes extremely dysfunctional family systems. We have each experienced in our own ways the painful trauma of the emptiness of our childhood and relationships throughout our lives.
We attempted to use others – our mates, friends, and even our children, as our sole source of identity, value and well being, and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses from our childhoods. Our histories may include other powerful addictions which at times we have used to cope with our codependence.
We have all learned to survive life, but in CoDA we are learning to live life. Through applying the Twelve Steps and principles found in CoDA to our daily life and relationships both present and past – we can experience a new freedom from our self defeating lifestyles. It is an individual growth process. Each of us is growing at our own pace and will continue to do so as we remain open to God’s will for us on a daily basis. Our sharing is our way of identification and helps us to free the emotional bonds of our past and the compulsive control of our present.
No matter how traumatic your past or despairing your present may seem, there is hope for a new day in the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous. No longer do you need to rely on others as a power greater than yourself. May you instead find here a new strength within to be that which God intended – Precious and Free.
The Welcome may not be reprinted or republished without the express written consent of Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. This document may be reprinted from the website www.coda.org (CoDA) for use by members of the CoDA Fellowship.